Is it really make sense?......

This is what fiction does sometimes. It makes you the outlaw. It makes you question your assumptions about yourself. It makes you question your boundaries and tests what you might and might not do, your pieties, your hypocrisies, your simple repetition of phrases that make you feel safe and good, in the moral know, in the political know. People are full of contradictions. That, to me, is the central truth we learn our whole lives long. Bad people do good things. Good people do bad things. If you want to fuel the plots of your stories, to make your characters believable and intriguing, make them contradictory. Reveal who they think they aren't. Show us their fatal flaws.

–ROBIN HEMLEY

The Number One Way to Improve Your Memory

By Piper Weiss, Shine Yahoo


Memory loss is the single biggest fear for Americans over the age of 55. And it’s understandable: over 4 million currently suffer from Alzheimer’s disease, and those numbers are expected to quadruple by 2050, according to the Alzheimer's Foundation. That may be why products promising to improve your brain function are flooding the market. Sudoku and crossword puzzles are said to improve memory association skills, though critics believe only when put to task by those puzzles. Ginkgo infused soft drinks line the grocery aisle, ever since the root was suggested to combat dementia (it doesn't). Even celery has been loosely linked to mental acuity. But the truth is there’s not enough hard evidence that any of these things really work.

In fact, there’s only one practice that’s been proven, without question, to preserve your memory: exercise. "Aerobic activities tend to show larger effects than non-aerobic activities," University of Pittsburgh psychologist Kirk Erickson tells Yahoo.

Working up a sweat helps your mind stay fit better than any crossword puzzle--unless you're doing that crossword on a treadmill.

The good news is that you don’t need to run a marathon. Just walking six miles a week can ward off memory disorders caused by aging, according to Erickson's research published this month in the medical journal Neurology. "It appears that if people start exercising their memory may improve and if you continue to exercise, that might delay, or offset, the age-related decline in memory," he explains.

And you don't need to lift any heavy barbells either. Erickson and his team monitored 300 senior adults over a period of 13 years, and found that those who walked between 6 and 9 miles a week—whether to work or with the dog--had half the brain deterioration of those who didn’t. "Exercise seems to enhance some of the more fundamental properties of our brain," Erickson explains. "It increases the growth of new cells and improves cellular processes associated with learning and memory." To put it simply, walking keeps your gray matter from shrinking. And the more matter, the more mind.

Another study published earlier this year suggests exercise can actually help your brain grow. A moderate workout may generate new brain cells. And not just any brain cells, but cells that specifically help to distinguish between memories, so each recollection stands out. It’s the kind of function you rely on every day, says Tim Bussey, one of the authors of the Cambridge University study. "[These cells help with] remembering which car parking space you have used on two different days in the previous week."

But exercise isn't the only way to keep tabs on your parking spot. There are some supplemental practices that doctors recommend in addition to a regular walk-a-thon. Diets rich in Omega fatty acids are instrumental in keeping your brain from aging. Two servings of salmon a week, provides ingredients that support brain tissue and enhance nerve cell function. Balancing fish with the other elements of a Mediterranean diet, like fruits and vegetables, has been found to lower the chances of cognitive decline.

When it comes to memory retrieval, self-testing can be beneficial. In other words, pausing between paragraphs of an article and asking yourself to paraphrase the information, or repeat a fact. It can't hurt if that article is written in another language. Bilingualism, says one new study, helps ward off Alzheimer’s for up to four years. But it doesn't prevent the disease altogether. Your best bet: Walk it off.

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Realize or Not.....

Do you realize? Your life always changing everyday...whether minor or major changes. If the changes so little may be you don't realize at all but the little can give big impact in the future. Is it? Everyone have their own thought. Whatever it is, the question now can you handle the changes? Are you ready for the changes in your life? Until now, I can't answer that. The changes still come whether you like it or not, whether you ready or not. So, why don't we think the way to face the changes or how to tackle the changes, so we can go on with our life without worries. I'm trying it right now. Everyone should try their best. There's no easy way to get the best. Just don't give up.....the day will come...chill:)

Ways to Make Work Better by Laurie PK, Quips & Tips for Achieving Goals

Never mind Monday morning -- does every day at work get you down? Most of us can't just quit our jobs...but we can do little things to make work better.

Don't knock these tips until you try them! You never know what could result from putting these babies into action...


1. Take your lava lamps and green plants to work. Both are scientifically proven to reduce stress and improve health on the job. The motion of the lava lamp is visually relaxing, and green plants increase job satisfaction by providing a sense of rest. Research shows that having plants in your office is more beneficial than having a window!

2. Develop strategies for coping with workplace bullying and office conflicts. The better equipped you are to cope with conflict at work -- such as dealing with office politics -- the less mental stress and strain you’ll feel. Achieving your career goals is more about empowerment than getting a job promotion. Take classes or read books about dealing with difficult coworkers. Go to workshops or "brown bag sessions" on workplace communication, job success, or employee interactions. Take an evening course on succeeding on the job, or creating a better work environment .

3. Schedule “mental health” days. Don’t reserve time off for when you or your family is physically ill, or you're on vacation! Schedule one workday every couple of months just for relaxing, pursuing your favorite leisure activity, or catching up on stuff at home. This may be a lot to ask your employer -- and it's often difficult to leave work for "no reason" -- but it's worth the effort.

4. Deal with your health problems immediately. If you're flirting with depression, stomachaches, stress headaches, or chronic fatigue, go to a doctor as soon as possible. This is especially important if you've recently won a job promotion ! Research on job promotions shows that after advancing at work, employees are 20% less likely to visit their doctors for routine physicals or specific health complaints. Promoted workers have more time constraints that, coupled with increased mental strain and stress, leads to fewer doctors’ visits and poorer health.

5. Know thyself -- get comfortable with your own personality. For example, people with introverted personality traits may feel socially inept, weird, or antisocial. Introverts don’t always realize that they’re simply drained by groups of people and that they process their thoughts differently than extroverts. The more you know about your personality – and the more comfortable you are with yourself – the easier it’ll be to like your job. And, dealing with workplace stress is easier when you have a little self-awareness and insight into how you tick.

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My 1st Experience Doing Research Alone...

I do admit....even doing a research is so complicated and need a strong patience...I still really like it. Dunno why...but for me its a fun challenge.

A Research actually make you a thinker. You have a question. And you want to find the answers. just like that..but the hard time when you need to go through all along the process to find the answers. And even you already got the answers, it may be right or may be wrong...a slight mistake...give a big effect.

Ohhh...I am a liar if I said that I don't get stress at all during my research process...it's really stress me out...specially when there are so much amendment to do...changing your title so frequent...still blur with your variables....your findings are rubbish...that sort of kinds really make me crazy for a while.

Maybe if we only see the pain doing it, so only that you will feel. So, why don't you see the other way around....you learn so much without realised it. I can feel that after my research fully finished...what a relieve...:) Its so hard to say but true...after I sacrificed so much....its done like I hope...not really the perfect one...but still just the way it should be...and the most important thing is I learned a lot..not just about the research process itself..but about our life...the real life.

All along the process....I am proud to think back that how independent I am...doing all alone. The first stage, the proposal. Look simple but this is a crucial part. This is the part for so much amendment....still blur for what you are doing this research....you don't have the question...so how can you get the answers. Meeting an advisor that you never know before at a place that you don't know how to get there....that's serious...huhhhhhh.

The second stage, the questionnaire. That's tough...asking others to fill up your questionnaire. Not every person just nice and cooperative. Make me think back, next time there are people ask for help...to fill in their questionnaire...I probably will..cause I know the feel if people rejected to help...thats not enough...plus some words that really hurt you come out from that people's mouth...feel like killing someone that time...hahaha but that really a good experience.

The third stage, the presentation. It is not really disturb your mind if you are well prepared and confident enough. But what happens if you just have your marathon, not get any sleep for two days..then the next morning there you are...your presentation. Ohhh...I just can't think...just talk what you want to talk...thats it...end of your presentation. Don't want to think about my marks...huhuhu.

The fourth stage, the final draft. If your findings have no problem at all...nothing will be bother you. Just proceed..luckily for me for this stage...just a slight amendment needed..but still took a few days to finish it...so stretching...huwaaarghhh.

Lastly, send everything,...your completed research....the reports...the cd's...everything needed...then I become a happy person..:)

If I need to make research again..I will...just learn from your mistake and improve yourself...that will do...thought it is a learning process in your life...what ever happens, don't forget to be happy...thats the only way to get out from your problem....chill:p

If I Were A Boy - Beyonce

If I were a boy

Even just for a day

I'd roll outta bed in the morning

And throw on what I wanted then go

Drink beer with the guys

And chase after girls

I'd kick it with who I wanted

And I'd never get confronted for it.

Cause they'd stick up for me.

[Chorus:]

If I were a boy

I think I could understand

How it feels to love a girl

I swear I'd be a better man.

I'd listen to her

Cause I know how it hurts

When you lose the one you wanted

Cause he's taken you for granted

And everything you had got destroyed

If I were a boy

I would turn off my phone

Tell everyone it's broken

So they'd think that I was sleepin' alone

I'd put myself first

And make the rules as I go

Cause I know that she'd be faithful

Waitin' for me to come home (to come home)

[Chorus]

It's a little too late for you to come back

Say it's just a mistake

Think I'd forgive you like that

If you thought I would wait for you

You thought wrong

[Chorus]

But you're just a boy

You don't understand

Yeah you don't understand

How it feels to love a girl someday

You wish you were a better man

You don't listen to her

You don't care how it hurts

Until you lose the one you wanted

Cause you've taken her for granted

And everything you have got destroyed

But you're just a boy

When You Believe - Whitney Houston

Many nights we pray

With no proof anyone could here

In our hearts a hopeful song

We barely understood

Now we are not afraid

Although we know there’s much to fear

We were moving mountains long

Before we knew we could

(Chorus): There can be miracles

When you believe

Though hope is frail

It’s hard to kill

Who knows what miracles

You can achieve

When you believe somehow you will

You will when you believe

In this time of fear

When prayer so often proves in vain

Hope seems like the summer birds

Too swiftly flown away

And now I am standing here

My heart’s so full I can’t explain

Seeking faith and speaking words

I never thought I’d say

(Chorus)

(Bridge): They don’t always happen when you ask

And it’s easy to give in to your fear

But when you’re blinded by your pain

Can’t see you way safe through the rain

Thought of a still resilient voice

Says love is very near

(Chorus)

Sonnet 18 - William Shakespeare

Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?

Thou art more lovely and more temperate.

Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,

And summer's lease hath all too short a date:

Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,

And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;

And every fair from fair sometimes declines,

By chance, or nature's changing course, untrimm'd;

But thy eternal summer shall not fade

Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st;

Nor shall Death brag thou wand'rest in his shade,

When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st.

So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,

so long lives this,and this gives life to thee.

Take Time

Take time to think

It is the source of power

Take time to read

It is the foundation of wisdom

Take time to play

It is the secret of staying young

Take time to be quiet

It is the opportunity to seek God

Take time to love and be loved

It is God’s greatest gift

Take time to laugh

It is the music of the soul

Take time to be friendly

It is the road to happiness

Take time to dream

It is what the future is made of

Take time to pray

It is the greatest power on earth

Once In A Lifetime - Danielle Steel

It only happens once,

not twice,

the moments

vanishing

like mice,

scurrying past,

life much

too fast,

and only for

the very brave,

the strong,

the true,

and when the moment

comes

for you,

don't let it

pass you by,

for in the twinkling

of an eye,

the love is gone,

the moment dead,

an empty ringing

in your head,

your heart will know

when fate

has whispered

in your ear.....

oh never fear,

beloved friend,

for in the end

it's worth

the price,

the fee,

the cost,

when all is lost,

but love is won,

when true love

comes,

there is

but one.